I do not expect this from Marie Claire.
Should "Fatties" Get a Room? (Even on TV?)
Okay, did you read it? If the answer is yes and your eyes didn't pop and proceed to dribble down your face, congratulations, it must not piss you off quite as much as it does me.
Let's start with last things first: the author, Maura Kelly, added this update after she found herself in a veritable shit storm almost as soon as she hit the "publish" button:
That's nice. But here's the problem: the unnecessary and unproductive things you said? You still said them. But let's at least take Maura's apology, and continue to what's in the post.
I'm not some size-ist jerk.Hm. Okay. But you just said this:
To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room -Wait for it, now it's time to justify it:
— just like I'd find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.Later in the update I quoted first, Maura points out that she feels equally uncomfortable when she sees an anorexic person as when she sees a morbidly obese person, so at least that one is diametrically opposed.... sort of....
By the by, there are plenty of "fatties" on TV. Ever seen half the game and reality shows out there? Overweight and obese contestants are - at a minimum - semi-regularly featured on Jeopardy, Wheel of Fortune, Wipeout (look, I don't know where I came up with that one either), Wife Swap, Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, Supernanny.... shall I go on? Is it just that "fatties" aren't allowed to have love lives?
My issue with the Marie Claire post is really the entire framing of the thing. They tell you when you're little that there's no such thing as a stupid question, but "should we watch fat people making out on TV?" IS A STUPID QUESTION. I am not being very eloquent here - at ALL - but, sorry, I just can't. The question she SHOULD be asking is, "Why the HELL do I care so much about someone else's body?" It's not really about money, although that's the trendy excuse. (The "fat people are costing us money" trope is tired, and if anyone actually wanted to enact change around other people's behavior for their health, Prohibition would never have been repealed, and cigarettes would have followed booze.) And it sure ain't the health of the
So really, the framing is off. The question shouldn't be, "Should we watch fat people making out on TV?" The question ought to be, "What is it about me that it makes me so uncomfortable watching fat people making out on TV?" If Maura had stepped back and considered where her discomfort came from, her post could have been worth reading, I'd expect. But this version is, sadly, only worth flaming.