How to Find Yourself Goaded Into Justifiable Homicide
The scene: I'm listening to my voicemail and hear a message from my dentist's office asking me to confirm my appointment tomorrow. I mention this to my better half as I'm dialing my phone. The old ball and chain starts to get mad. At me. Because I won't cancel the appointment. To save money. My dentist appointment. I won't cancel it. Because teeth are important. And I go twice a year. Like you're supposed to. I won't cancel it. And he's getting annoyed/mad that I want to spend $130 on the maintenance of my oral health. And then he grumbles, mumbles a bit, and I hear:
"... eating up all my money..."
All my money. All my money. Eating up all my money.
So I'll ask you again: what does it mean to be a young woman in the contemporary U.S.? It sure as shit doesn't mean that to me.
8 comments:
if you got a jury of your actual peers, you wouldn't just be acquited, you'd also receive a free pool boy.
I'm down with that, as long as it's a *stereotypical* pool boy.
Ahhhhhhhhh! I would FLIP the fuck out if JP ever said that. Even when I was waiting for law school to start and not working and he was working and we were living together (not even married yet) and I lived 100% off of his salary, he never uttered that phrase. We'd made a decision that I was going to be a non-income-earning student for a few years and he'd work full time - any money coming in was ours, just as now that I finally make money, it's still ours. Not mine.
I'm seriously completely worked up on your behalf. That's just a way of looking at a partnership (both the business partnership and the marriage partnership) that is utterly inconsistent with the way it should be and how you probably view it.
Not to mention the fact it's not some frivolous indulgence, it's your teeth! Teeth he probably wants you to still have when you're both old and grey.
It was a pretty fricking antiquated take on the situation, wasn't it??
I suspect one of my friends may be making a voodoo doll as we type...
Oh holy hell. I would definitely flip my shit if my husband ever said anything even remotely similar to that. All I can do now is hope that he realizes what a completely idiot statement/thought that was, even if he didn't mean it/didn't mean for it to be heard.
See, to me, it doesn't matter if he didn't mean to say it/didn't mean for it to be heard: it is obviously what came to mind first. Trust people's first reactions, right? The ones that slip out before they put on their PC filter. Then you'll know where they really stand.
My ears, they are steaming. I'll have to use the steam to iron out his ridiculous assumptions. :D
Ugh. I would be very pissed off too. Very.
And like you, what kills me the most in those bursts of spontaneous stupidity is the very spontaneity factor. That's what you get when the filter is off...
And then I say something real mean when my filter breaks down, and I pray that others won't think I'm a turd, so... :P
I'm not much help!
I just watched "Waitress" and thought it was sweet and kinda sappy, but maybe a bit "man-hating". And then I read your post and realized it was accurate. That sucks. I've talked to several men recently who are single after a string of relationships and realizing the women who left them actually had good reason. (Not that you should leave your husband over one comment, but if it becomes a habit, the homicide thing is totally justified and he will probably agree with you in his next life as a woman who bakes pies.)
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